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At 24 I have been in a real
relationship thrice. One was serious and
the others were a waste of time. My cry is not about the relationship I had,
it’s about the ones I didn’t have simply because my Arewa girls would not give
it a chance. While growing up our parents (Fathers) used to tell us interesting
stories of how they married our mothers. Ever since I was a kid, my dream was
to get a good girl who is educated enough to take care of me and my kids. Alas,
my dream is yet to materialize. Today’s girls are completely different from
yesterdays. Are our parents (Mothers) to blame or the society? That’s a
question I’ve been burning to get an answer.
No generation has witness the birth of
beautiful young women like ours. Even with all the heavy make-ups in the market.
One cannot deny that the beautiful ones have already been born. Unfortunately,
beauty without a good heart is a waste of cosmetics. Our parents (Mothers) were
not too pretty, but they got husbands and married at the right time. They
didn’t give our Daddies hard time, they simply gave them their hearts and today
we are witnessing the last age of real love. I say this because after their
generation, there will be nothing like love. Lust will take over. My Arewa
girls have made love so expensive, it’s now sold to the highest bidder.
Pride; Show me one Arewa girl who is
not prideful and I will run a marathon from Kano to Lagos. If a mountain will
increase each time a girl’s pride rises, I guess Mars will now be our home. The
other day I was at Shoprite with a friend. While we were walking by some girls
who were taking pictures and selfies. My friend volunteered to take them a shot
or two so they could have a different angular view. Just when he declared his intention to them,
my Arewa girls pretended as if their ears where not functional. He withdrew to
me and we left. My friend who has a good heart felt the girls needed help and
will be better if they had their pictures taken from a different direction.
However, his intention was perceived and translated otherwise. Instead of them
to politely decline, their pride made them behave like those creatures in the
Zoo. Love is a barter of deep sense of
feeling and an ocean of emotions not a battle ground for pride.
In the olden days, women see fashion as
priority only after the issues at home have been sorted out. Well, today it’s a
different story entirely. Last week a woman sold the foodstuffs in her house to
buy clothes for her friend’s wedding. It doesn’t matter how or where the
finances come from, what matters is they must put on the latest designers and
accessories. If their boyfriends or husbands cannot afford it, they solicit
other means to fill their obsession. This alone is a criteria for giving you
their time or affection. If you can’t provide for them, then start learning how
to continue living a bachelor’s life. As for the woman who sold her foodstuffs,
she slept in a police cell. I can’t blame the husband.
I once told a friend that I will marry
a girl who had just completed her secondary school. After we’ve gotten a kid or
two, I will allow her to further her education. A lot of people view my opinion
as bizarre while to many others is a welcome idea. They say educate a man and you
educate an individual, but educate a woman and you educate a community. I
believe this saying works in the past. If education will become the reason why
a girl will disregard totally what the society holds in high regards, I think
then that she shouldn’t get that education. Our so called educated girls no longer
have respect for values that are of importance to the growth and stability of
the society. The education they seek have given them so much exposure and
enlightenment far beyond what they need. They no longer care about morals of
dressing and respect and values of womanhood and chastity. They have lost what
it means to be a woman of dignity, a symbol of peace and tranquility.
Nothing breaks my heart than the way
contemporary Arewa girls behave in relationships. You can hardly find a guy who
is happy with his courtship with Arewa girls. The kind of pain and agony we
suffer from them are rarely been experienced by my comrades on the other side
of the map. Where have we (Guys) gone wrong? I don’t seem to know. When you
date an Arewa girl, you must be mete with any of the following treatment, neglect,
disdain, disregard, disrespect and many irrational reactions. To them it is a
test of love and loyalty. Even the
Nigerian Army doesn’t treat new recruits the way Arewa girls treat guys. This
may probably be the reason why some of us misbehave. We are been subjected to
harsh emotional conditions so we find solace elsewhere. Sometimes in many
places at the same time. I personally believe that if love is what it is, it
cannot be shared amongst persons, but only to one who truly deserves it.
I like my Arewa girls, but it’s the
traits they exhibit that discourage me. I know all of you cannot change at
once. However, I am sincerely calling on any of you who read this article to
start by assessing yourself and proceed to restructuring how you deal with my
kind. We are pillars on which you must stand, why break us when you can make us
stand stronger. To love a thing and find it wanting in loyalty and respect is
misappropriation of faith. Don’t you think?
WRITER: ANONYMOUS
